Tip # 65    Married to your work?  Or just procrastinating in the dating game?

In Lives Without Balance, Steven Carter and Judith Sokol (Villard Books, 1992) discuss the phenomenon of confirmed bachelors, male and female.

Striking a balance between work and play is still considered the ideal, no matter how sacred you think the work ethic is:  “By now if you are unattached, it’s probably overwhelmingly apparent that your lifestyle is not conducive to finding or forming a solid relationship.  Whether you’re male or female, you are simply so involved in your work that you don’t have the necessary time or energy for dating…Yet you ache for a relationship.

Is procrastination barring you from a meaningful relationship?

Tip # 66    Father / mother issues?

One of the worst kinds of procrastination is when you carry resentment from childhood into adolescence and into adulthood.  Here you are in your 40’s and that childhood resentment is still brewing inside you.  All these years you’ve allowed it to grow into a cancer because you won’t deal with it. 

Don’t let your procrastination erode any love that’s left. If you’re angry about something, speak up.  If they explained their side, perhaps that resentment may just whittle away, and you’ll only berate for yourself for making a mountain out of a molehill.  You can’t continue blaming your parents for your misfortunes.